What if the reason you keep choosing the wrong people—or replaying old pain—isn’t weakness, but an invitation to heal?

In this heartfelt conversation, Charles Turtz sits down with Keith Crossley, author of State Within Light: The Path to Enlightenment and creator of Anxiety Detox Training. Together, they explore the emotional mechanics of friendship, situationships, betrayal, and the lifelong work of rebuilding self-worth after trauma.

Charles and Keith open up about control, anger, forgiveness, and the “not-enough wound” that hides beneath perfectionism, people-pleasing, and burnout. This is a raw, real look at how healing begins the moment we stop running from pain—and start meeting it with courage, compassion, and clarity.

You’ll Learn:

How to recognize when friendships are one-sided and emotionally draining

How to identify the core fear driving your relationships and self-sabotage

Why anger is often a symptom of control—not weakness

How to break karmic cycles and patterns that keep you stuck in pain

Why true confidence begins with integrating your “shadow side”

How to separate compassion from unhealthy attachment or obligation

Why suffering can be the path to growth, healing, and transcendence

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00:00 – Meet Keith Crossley: From Betrayal to Emotional Healing

02:15 – The Pain of One-Sided Friendships and Why We Keep Giving

05:40 – Childhood Roots of the “Not-Enough” Wound

08:10 – Relationship Boxes: Seeing People for Who They Are

10:20 – Situationships, Boundaries, and False Hope

12:15 – Cheating, Red Flags, and When to Walk Away

15:30 – Fear of Abandonment and the Cycle of Self-Protection

18:20 – Breaking Karma: Mapping Emotional Triggers

22:30 – Celebrating Progress: Recognizing Triggers in Real Time

25:10 – Anger, Control, and the Root of Emotional Reactions

28:20 – Healing Parental Wounds and Setting Boundaries with Compassion

31:00 – Integrating the Shadow Self and Finding Wholeness

35:00 – Releasing Shame Through Accountability and Truth

39:10 – The Descent Before Healing: Why It Gets Harder Before It Gets Better

45:00 – Transcending Ego and Choosing Self-Awareness

50:00 – The Path Beyond Suffering: How Healing Changes Everything

54:20 – Lessons from Pain, Perspective, and Purpose