Your wife isn’t rejecting you. She’s protecting herself (likely without knowing).

And if her ‘no’ isn’t fully deeply safe with you, her ‘yes’ stopped being real a long time ago.

In this episode of Radical Self, I speak directly to the men who are longing for more sexual freedom, play, and honesty with their partners — and aren’t getting it.

I share vulnerably from my own 18-year relationship, including how opening my marriage revealed how deeply I’d internalised the belief that my body and sexuality “belonged” to my husband, even though he never asked for that. From there, we dive into the history and conditioning that have made women’s desire taboo for thousands of years, why cohabitation and emotional labor quietly kill female libido, and how so many couples end up in the heartbreaking loop of him feeling rejected and her abandoning herself just to keep emotional safety.

You’ll learn why your wife (or longtime female partner) isn’t actually rejecting you, what she’s protecting inside herself, why your longing might be landing as pressure, and the three essential ingredients to rebuild erotic safety, novelty, and slow intimacy. If her desire feels far away and you feel starved for connection, this conversation will give you language, context, and a way forward.

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