Oprah is joined by award-winning journalist and New York Times bestselling author Jennifer Wallace to talk about her transformative new book "Mattering: The Secret to a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose." Drawing on six years of research, Wallace shares how mattering - the feeling that we are valued and have an opportunity to add value - is a fundamental human need essential to our well-being. She believes there's been "an erosion of mattering" and provides actionable steps to deepen your connections, reconnect to your sense of purpose and navigate challenges with greater resilience. Joining the conversation is Jennifer's close friend and lifestyle icon Ina Garten. Oprah and Jennifer also speak with a military wife who learned how to bring mattering back to her marriage and an extraordinary young man who went from being a sanitation worker to a Harvard Law School graduate. BUY THE BOOK! 'Mattering: The Secret to a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose' by Jennifer Wallace: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/756179/mattering-by-jennifer-breheny-wallace/ Chapters: 00:00:00 - Welcome Jennifer Wallace, author of “Mattering” 00:05:50 - Ina Garten joins 00:07:05 - The importance of mattering to yourself 00:08:40 - How Ina shows people they matter 00:09:30 - The importance of showing up 00:10:50 - One easy way to show people they matter 00:12:20 - The thread that ties us together 00:13:40 - Extrinsic and intrinsic values 00:15:50 - Professor Gordon Flett on why mattering is life or death 00:18:12 - How mattering affects our longevity 00:21:00 - How to get through hard moments 00:23:00 - How Army partners struggle with mattering 00:28:00 - Our resilience is tied to our relationships 00:34:00 - Mattering to ourselves raises the bar for all relationships 00:35:20 - A former sanitation worker's observations on mattering 00:42:00 - Supporting support staff 00:44:50 - Mattering at work 00:46:00 - The 4 important feelings to mattering 00:48:10 - What to do if you feel like you don’t matter Additional Resources: ‘Be Ready When the Luck Happens: A Memoir’ by Ina Garten: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/770511/be-ready-when-the-luck-happens-by-ina-garten/ Gordon L. Flett, Ph.D. https://www.yorku.ca/lamarsh/gord-flett/ ‘The Wives: A Memoir’ by Simone Gorrindo: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Wives/Simone-Gorrindo/9781982178505#:~:text=The%20Wives%20%7C%20Book%20by%20Simone,Official%20Publisher%20Page%20%7C%20Simon%20%26%20Schuster The Reciprocity Effect: https://www.thereciprocityeffect.org/Follow Oprah Winfrey on Social:https://www.instagram.com/oprahpodcast/https://www.facebook.com/oprahwinfrey/Listen to the full podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0tEVrfNp92a7lbjDe6GMLIhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-oprah-podcast/id1782960381 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices