"Modern Relationships"

This week, Erik talks to dating coach and former Stripe engineer Joyce Zhang and reveals her strategic dating frameworks and explains why people's standards are too low (not high). She introduces her controversial "hardball" filtering technique, and argues that dating apps work excellently with proper strategy—but self-love remains the biggest bottleneck.Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co--SPONSOR: Relationship HeroIt’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.--LINKS:Joyce Zhang Substack: https://thejoycezhang.substack.com/--FOLLOW ON X:Joyce - @thejoycezhangErik - @eriktorenbergTurpentine - @turpentinemedia

This week, Erik sits down with Joe Hudson and Tara Howley, the extraordinary couple behind Art of Accomplishment, whose coaching has helped CEOs like Sam Altman. They share their journey from a toxic relationship to a deeply connected partnership, offering personal stories, practical strategies, and insights on how self-growth, therapy, and commitment to transformation can foster resilient, loving relationships.Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co--SPONSOR: Relationship HeroIt’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.--LINK/S:Art of Accomplishment: https://www.artofaccomplishment.com/ Joe and Esme — The Teenage Years: https://youtu.be/Eg70lbiElrI?si=bK-8FB-bzYh6HqL1How to Be a Parent (Without Messing Everything Up) | Joe Hudson and Nathan Baschez: https://www.artofaccomplishment.com/podcast/how-to-be-a-parent-without-messing-everything-up-joe-hudson-and-nathan-baschez--FOLLOW ON X:Joe - @FU_joehudsonErik - @eriktorenbergTurpentine - @turpentinemedia

In this episode, Erik sits down with Harley Finkelstein and Lindsay Taub, partners of 15 years. Harley, Shopify's president, and Lindsay, a psychotherapist and entrepreneur, discuss their speed dating origin story, balancing radical acceptance with growth, and redefining work-life balance while raising two daughters together when your job is all-consuming.Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co--SPONSOR: Relationship HeroIt’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.--Shopify: https://www.shopify.com/ph--FOLLOW ON X:Harley - @harleyfErik - @eriktorenbergTurpentine - @turpentinemedia

Today on Modern Relationships Erik Torenberg is joined by Jared Fliesler, a former executive at Google, Square, and Scribd turned founder coach, discusses how to identify core values in partners, distinguish between compromise and "horse trading," and determine when someone is "good enough." He shares insights on building meaningful connections, his co-living experiments, and navigating long-distance relationships.Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co--SPONSOR: Relationship HeroIt’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.--LINKS | BOOKS RECOMMENDED:The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership by Jim Dethmer, Diana Champan, etc: https://conscious.is/15-commitmentsBook: https://www.amazon.com/15-Commitments-Conscious-Leadership-Sustainable-ebook/dp/B00R3MHWUEPositive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine: https://www.amazon.com/Positive-Intelligence-Individuals-Achieve-Potential/dp/1608322785--FOLLOW ON X:Jared -@JaredSFErik - @eriktorenbergTurpentine - @turpentinemedia

Today on Modern Relationships Erik Torenberg talks to Ann Pierce, a former startup founder who became obsessed with the mission of solving interpersonal conflict. Ann unpacks why conflict isn't inherently negative but actually builds trust when handled correctly. She covers why invalidation is the most common threat most of us encounter, how we misunderstand each other through projection, and how to break the cycles of conflict.Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co--SPONSOR: Relationship HeroIt’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.--LINKS:Ann Pierce Website: https://www.annpierce.com/Ann Pierce - Understanding Interpersonal Conflict: https://substack.com/home/post/p-153042013?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=webLove Symposium: https://symposium.love/--FOLLOW ON X:Ann - @itsannpierceErik - @eriktorenbergTurpentine - @turpentinemedia