This week, Erik talks to dating coach and former Stripe engineer Joyce Zhang and reveals her strategic dating frameworks and explains why people's standards are too low (not high). She introduces her controversial "hardball" filtering technique, and argues that dating apps work excellently with proper strategy—but self-love remains the biggest bottleneck.Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co--SPONSOR: Relationship HeroIt’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.--LINKS:Joyce Zhang Substack: https://thejoycezhang.substack.com/--FOLLOW ON X:Joyce - @thejoycezhangErik - @eriktorenbergTurpentine - @turpentinemedia