Loud & Lifted

<p>You can be the best in the world at something… and still battle self-doubt, comparison, and “do I belong here?” thoughts. In this under-10-minute Quick Lift, We are breaking down the most actionable lessons from Olympic gold medalist Charlotte Worthington—so you can use them in your next big meeting, pitch, or hard conversation.</p><p>In this Quick Lift, you’ll take away:</p><ul><li><strong>A 10-second pressure reset</strong> you can use before high-stakes moments</li><li><strong>A simple way to “rehearse” your mindset</strong> so you’re not surprised by anxious thoughts</li><li><strong>A process-over-outcome focus</strong> to stay present and perform</li><li><strong>A reframe for comparison that builds confidence and community:</strong> <em>swap comparison for admiration</em></li></ul><p>Follow<a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/loudandliftedpodcast/"> <strong>Loud &amp; Lifted</strong> </a>for more confidence tools, career growth for women, and real conversations about women in leadership.</p><p></p><p>Follow <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/chazworther/">Charlotte</a>! </p>

<p>Ever notice how the higher you achieve, the louder the expectations get? Olympic gold medalist Charlotte Worthington gets it—because she’s lived it in the most high-stakes arena possible.</p><p></p><p>In this episode, Charlotte shares how she built mental toughness in a sport that’s equal parts fearless and strategic, why confidence is a <em>practice</em> (not a personality trait), and the simple mindset shift that changed everything for her: swap comparison for admiration.</p><p><strong>You’ll hear about:</strong></p><ul><li>How Charlotte went from new BMX rider to Olympic track fast (without “waiting until she was ready”)</li><li>The tools she uses to stay calm under pressure: breathing + visualization + thought rehearsal</li><li>Why “I have to be the best in the room” is a trap (and what to do instead)</li><li>Individual sport vs. team energy—and how she learned to drop ego and embrace support</li><li>The confidence reframe every woman in leadership needs: comparison → admiration</li></ul><p><strong>Links / Resources</strong></p><ul><li>Follow Charlotte on Instagram: <strong>@</strong><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/chazworther/"><strong>ChazWerther</strong></a></li><li>Book mentioned: <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://amzn.to/4bBG16q"><strong><em>Ego Is the Enemy</em> by Ryan Holiday</strong></a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://loud-lifted.kit.com/profile/links"><strong>Loud &amp; Lifted Links</strong></a></li></ul>

<p><strong>Episode Overview</strong></p><p>This quick recap pulls the most actionable ideas from my conversation with Dr. Alison Fragale, author of <em>Likeable Badass</em>—so you can earn more respect (status), influence outcomes, and still feel like yourself doing it.</p><p>Be warm → get overlooked.</p><p>Be strong → get judged. </p><p>Show confidence → get questioned. …</p><p>So let’s fix the game instead of blaming you.</p><p><strong>Summary</strong></p><p>In this Quick Lift, we break down Alison’s core concept: people make fast judgments about you based on warmth and competence. When you intentionally signal both, you build status—and status becomes influence. The best part? The move is usually adding clarity and confidence, not subtracting kindness.</p><p><strong>Key Takeaways</strong></p><ul><li>Status is built (not granted): Warmth + Competence → Respect → Influence</li><li>Power vs. status: A title can give power, but respect creates leverage</li><li>“Too nice” isn’t a personality problem: it’s usually a signal problem (they’re not seeing enough competence/confidence)</li><li>Self-promotion without backlash: Brag + Thank (claim impact + share credit)</li><li>Tough conversations land better when you think in a relationship timeline: past + present + future signals</li></ul><p><strong>Quick Lift Moves (try these this week)</strong></p><ul><li>Pick one signal to turn up:<ul><li>Warmth: give public credit, a real check-in, a specific compliment</li><li>Competence: crisp POV, decisive language, bring the solution</li></ul></li><li>Use this sentence starter in meetings:<ul><li>“My recommendation is ___, because ___.”</li></ul></li><li>Try Brag + Thank once (email, meeting, weekly update, LinkedIn):<ul><li>“I’m proud of . Huge thanks to for __.”</li></ul></li></ul><p><strong>Links &amp; Resources</strong></p><p>Alison's site: <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.alisonfragale.com/">https://www.alisonfragale.com/</a> </p><p>Alison's Instagram: @alisonfragale </p><p>Buy Likeable Badass: <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://amzn.to/4628vSU">https://amzn.to/4628vSU</a> </p><p>Loud &amp; Lifted Podcast: <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/">https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/</a> </p><p>Sign up for L&amp;L newsletter: <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://loud-lifted.kit.com/profile/links">https://loud-lifted.kit.com/profile/links</a></p>

<p>Women in leadership often get stuck in the likability vs. competence double bind—and it can stall career growth for women even when performance is strong. In this episode, organizational psychologist Dr. Alison Fragale shares the “Likeable Badass” approach to build leadership confidence, strengthen executive presence, and increase influence at work—without shrinking, over-explaining, or apologizing for being direct.</p><p></p><p>If you’ve ever softened your message, over-explained, or held back from advocating for yourself because you didn’t want to be “that person”… this episode is for you. Alison breaks down why the likability-competence tradeoff shows up so often for women, and the practical shifts that help you build influence without contorting yourself into someone else’s comfort zone.</p><p>Takeaways</p><ul><li><strong>Stop aiming to be liked. Aim to be respected <em>and</em> trusted</strong>—there’s a difference, and it changes your results.</li><li><strong>Status isn’t about ego.</strong> It’s how your value becomes visible (and rewarded).</li><li><strong>Warmth without strength gets you overlooked.</strong> Strength without warmth can trigger backlash. The goal is both.</li><li><strong>Self-advocacy doesn’t need to feel salesy</strong>—it needs to be clear, specific, and connected to outcomes.</li><li><strong>Use cleaner language.</strong> Less apologizing, fewer “justs,” and no pre-defending your point before you make it.</li></ul><p><strong>Links &amp; Resources</strong></p><ul><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://alisonfragale.com/">Dr. Alison Fragale </a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://amzn.to/3Nw8j8j">Likeable Badass (book)</a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/alisonfragale/">Follow Alison on Instagram</a></li><li>Loud &amp; Lifted Podcast: <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/">https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/</a> </li><li>Sign up for L&amp;L newsletter: <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://loud-lifted.kit.com/profile/links">https://loud-lifted.kit.com/profile/links</a></li></ul><p></p><p><strong>Guest Bio</strong></p><p>Dr. Alison Fragale is an organizational psychologist, professor at the University of North Carolina Kenan-Flagler Business School, and bestselling author of Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve. Her academic research on status, power, negotiation, and influence have been published in her field’s top academic journals as well as national media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times. She is a sought-after keynote speaker who uses behavioral science to help individuals, especially women, excel. Prior to her academic career, Alison worked as a consultant for McKinsey and Company, Inc.</p><p>She holds a B.A. in Mathematics and Economics from Dartmouth College and a Ph.D. in Organizational Behavior from the Stanford University Graduate School of Business.</p><p></p>

<p>Micromanagers, Narcissists, and Bullies — and how to protect your peace without losing your edge.</p><p>Have you ever worked for someone who monitors you like a toddler near an open staircase? You don’t get bonus points for suffering quietly.</p><p>In this Loud &amp; Lifted: Quick Lift, Betsy recaps insights from "The Management Guru" Lynda Harvey to give you a playbook for the three most draining leadership personalities. We break down exactly how to spot them and the specific, repeatable moves you can use <em>this week</em> to protect your confidence.</p><p>In this episode, we cover:</p><ul><li>The Micromanager: Distinguishing between "trust issues" vs. "power trips"—and the "Train Your Boss" method to stop the hovering before it starts.</li><li>The Narcissist: Why you can't win by confronting them, and how to use the "Gray Rock" method to disappear from their drama radar.</li><li>The Bully: The difference between tough leadership and abuse, and how to "document like a detective" to protect your career record.</li></ul><p>Key Takeaway: If leadership protects the bully, that’s the culture. Learn when to stay and fight, and when to protect your next move.</p>