What if queerness was infinite, instead of limited by the strict rules and norms of our patriarchal world? What if we abandoned the binary of tops and bottoms, gays and straights, women and men, and embraced the idea--nay, the reality!--that all of us are fluid, ever-changing beings with deep wellsprings of desire and turn-on we would never know about if we didn't get curious and explore? I talk about all this and more with my guest this week, James Patrick Nelson, or as I call him, Jamie. In this episode: Why Jamie thinks the world would be better if more straight men got fucked in the assThe surprising emotional power of being sexually receptiveJamie’s chaotic, joyful anal debut story (yes, it involved a threesome)Why “top” and “bottom” are wildly insufficient ways to describe human desireThe queer loneliness of trying to fit into tiny little boxesHow the pandemic changed Jamie’s understanding of intimacy, beauty, and self-worthWhy joyful, consensual anal sex is still almost absent from mainstream mediaThe difference between humiliation and vulnerability—and why patriarchy confuses the twoJamie’s very horny origin story for wanting a tattooA sexy game for exes that honestly might fix modern datingWhy the best sex is often about feeling truly seen and worshippedThe making of Jamie’s sensual new indie film Something to Surprise MeHow queer people are reclaiming sexuality from shame, binaries, and bad storytellingAss worship, emotional intimacy, and the radical act of yielding with joySUPPORT SOMETHING TO SURPRISE ME ON SEED & SPARK: https://seedandspark.com/fund/something-to-surprise-me?token=4de1630be7d5a70c7cd806c60339bcf9a171bb0ac77ec1d99238fc1dbd4bc803#storyWATCH FOR YEARS TO COME: https://www.youtube.com/watch?si=-Tu7iceWO2px5pPU&v=jMrHzo03fxE&feature=youtu.beALL THINGS JAMIE: https://www.james-patrick-nelson.com/SUPPORT THE SHOW, CUTIE PATOOT!Become a paying Substack subscriber: https://samiamounts.substack.comVenmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-MountsCashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMountsThank you, pinecones! See ya next week.xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closetedGet a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.