<p>Let&#39;s begin a deep dive into <strong>codependency</strong> — what it actually is, in preparation for why autistic women are particularly vulnerable to it next week - and why emotional detachment is essential not only for healing, but for protecting our children and showing up as the stable, credible parent in family court.</p><p>One of the hardest truths I had to learn is that <strong>legal advice doesn’t land when emotions are running high</strong>. As long as survivors show up dysregulated — in emails, texts, reports, or in court — they continue to generate material that can be used against them, even when their concerns are valid. </p><p>Emotional detachment does not mean we stop caring, what it does is it removes the reactivity that you shoot yourself in the foot with, time and time again. </p><p><br></p><p><strong>DETACH, BABY, DETACH!!!</strong></p><p>Welcome back to <strong>Season 2 of </strong><em><strong>Light in the Battle</strong></em> — a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse, where we get clearer, calmer, and spiritually and legally harder to mess with.</p><p>So in Season 2, I’m taking you step by step through the journey I personally had to walk to detach completely — without detaching from my child’s wellbeing — and to finally be able to show patterns of behavior, in a way family court cannot ignore.</p><p>So far this season, we’ve covered:</p><ul><li><p>Trauma bonding (<a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Q4y3NVnnz1WvsgYqdqau6?si=c3c169ca7a374fd8" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Episode 15</a> &amp; <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/6GLhQpZcaZTklI1336hNt7?si=01c1d82d99714e69" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Episode 16</a>)</p></li><li><p>PTSD / CPTSD and EMDR (<a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/0MBjbaMIlxg8o6zAD6Ja7H?si=5bb258a13e82416f" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Episodes 17</a> &amp; <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/2X4MXt6Oyi0FSpOdMVU7SL?si=b6f268605f1f4bca" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Episode 18)</a></p></li><li><p>Forgiveness — and why it does <strong>not</strong> mean reconciliation (<a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/2DfdCn1iiWjCPt0tA1yUZO?si=qzvHUXnkR9aJ5PO5i-avBA" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Episode 19</a>)</p><p><br></p></li></ul><p>Now it’s time to talk about <strong>codependency</strong>.</p><ul><li><p>A clear definition of codependency and common traits</p></li><li><p>Why codependent traits often emerge in dysfunctional or high-conflict family systems</p></li><li><p>How codependency can develop in autistic women, especially those raised in unstable environments</p></li><li><p>Why forgiveness alone doesn’t break emotional entanglement</p></li><li><p>The concept of <strong>self-verification</strong> — and how the autistic brain’s need for predictability can keep codependent dynamics in place</p></li><li><p>How codependency and narcissistic dynamics reinforce each other without blaming survivors of domestic violence</p></li><li><p>Why emotional detachment is key to parallel parenting and raising a non-codependent child</p></li></ul><p>This episode draws in part from:</p><ul><li><em>Codependent No More, </em>written by Melody Beattie</li></ul><ul><li>An <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/7eCvIqDakpTWDSckwHtiCI?si=ff6c0a9b75dd4b4f" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Interview Of Melody Beattie</a></li></ul><ul><li><p>Research on self-verification (SimplyPsychology.org and publicly available resources on Google)</p></li></ul><p>This is <strong>Part 1</strong> of the codependency arc. Part 2 in Episode 21 will link ASD to Codependency closely, andthen in Episode 22 we&#39;ll suggest ways to walk the journey of codependency recovery. </p><p><br>In upcoming episodes, we’ll move into gratitude, fellowship &amp; mentorship, surrender, and grief — all essential stages on the path to emotional detachment and freedom.</p><p>👉 <strong>Please follow the show and leave a 5-star review</strong> if this season resonates. It helps this content reach other women who need it.</p><p><strong>Disclaimer:</strong> I am not a medical, legal, or mental health professional. This podcast is based on lived experience. Please consult qualified professionals to determine what is appropriate for your situation.</p><p><strong>Stay with me through this season. It will get uncomfortable for sure. That&#39;s the whole point, I&#39;m trying to help you get out of your own way so you can better hear what your lawyer is saying. </strong></p><p><br>I’m taking you on a journey. <strong>Follow the show so you can get all the episodes of Season 2. </strong></p>