<p>Turns out almost everyone has a fantasy they've never told a single soul. This week Jay-Jay and sex &amp; relationship coach Mel Vranjes get into sexual fantasies; what's actually going on underneath them, why just <em>talking</em> about one can be almost as hot as living it out, and how to bring it up with your partner without causing a small relationship earthquake.</p><br><p>Mel shares the research on the most common fantasies (group sex, power play, and being completely ravished all made the list), and we talk through how to find the <em>feeling</em> behind a fantasy so you're not stuck trying to recreate an exact scene from a book.</p><br><p>Also in this episode: Jay-Jay's worst date story ever, the golden showers chat nobody asked for, why pegging makes so many people squirm and shouldn't, and a Pleasure Practice that's basically just permission to daydream a bit more.</p><br><p><em>Topics: sexual fantasies, fantasy communication, kinks and power play, BDSM basics, intimacy and desire, couples communication, sex education, relationship advice</em></p><br><p>How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams. </p><br><p>This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets. Shop online at <a href="http://www.wildsecrets.co.nz" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.wildsecrets.co.nz</a> &amp; use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide… Pleasure Delivered.</p><br><p><strong>JOIN OUR COMMUNITY!</strong></p><p>SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK <a href="https://hthspodcast.substack.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://hthspodcast.substack.com</a></p><p>INSTAGRAM <a href="https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p>FACEBOOK <a href="https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast</a></p><p>YOUTUBE <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p>EMAIL <a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">[email protected]</a></p><p>Support the podcast! <a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex</a></p><br><p>How To Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland. <a href="https://www.podlab.co.nz" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.podlab.co.nz</a></p><br><p>HOSTS:</p><p>Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality</p><p>Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ</p><p>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney</a></p><br><p>Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex &amp; Relationship Coach</p><p><a href="http://www.melissavranjes.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.melissavranjes.com</a></p><p>Instagram: @melissavranjes</p><p>Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: <a href="https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school</a></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>