<p><br></p><p>Anal play. Butt stuff. The backdoor. Whatever you call it, more people are curious than will ever admit it. So this week, Jay-Jay and Mel are going there. Literally.</p><p>Certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes joins a very nervous, very clenching Jay-Jay Feeney to unpack everything about anal and butt play, for all bodies and all genders. From the biology, to the beginner steps, to the stuff nobody talks about.</p><br><p>In this episode:</p><ul><li>Why butt play is so taboo (and why that's changing)</li><li>The male G-spot (yes, the prostate) and why most men have no idea what they're missing</li><li>How women can experience orgasms from anal stimulation</li><li>The difference between external and penetrative play (you do NOT have to go all in to enjoy it)</li><li>Mel's three beginner techniques: The Doorbell, The Credit Card, and Circles</li><li>How to prepare properly, and why porn has got it dangerously wrong</li><li>The importance of lube, going slow, and communication</li><li>What NOT to do (don't cross-contaminate, don't use spit, and absolutely never surprise someone mid-sex)</li><li>How to bring it up with a partner without making it weird</li><li>Recovering from a bad experience</li><li>This week's Pleasure Practice (JJ's reaction is priceless)</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Curious but nervous? That's exactly who this episode is for.</p><p><strong>This episode is sponsored by Wild Secrets</strong>. NZ's premium pleasure destination. Use code <strong>HAVESEX</strong> for 20% off. Pleasure delivered. <a href="http://wildsecrets.co.nz" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">wildsecrets.co.nz</a></p><br><p> </p><p> <strong>SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK </strong><a href="https://hthspodcast.substack.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://hthspodcast.substack.com</a></p><p><strong> INSTAGRAM </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>FACEBOOK </strong><a href="https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast</a></p><p> <strong>YOUTUBE</strong> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>EMAIL</strong> <a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">[email protected]</a></p><p> <strong>Support the podcast! </strong><a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex</a></p><p> </p><p> How To Have Sex is produced by <strong>PodLab</strong>, Auckland. <a href="https://www.podlab.co.nz" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.podlab.co.nz</a></p><br><p> <strong>HOSTS:</strong></p><p><strong> Jay-Jay Feeney</strong> – Media Personality</p><p> Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ</p><p> Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney</p><p> </p><p> <strong>Melissa Vranjes – </strong>Certified Somatic Sex &amp; Relationship Coach</p><p> www.melissavranjes.com</p><p> Instagram: @melissavranjes</p><p> </p><p> Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body?<strong> Join Sex School here: </strong>https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school</p><p><strong> </strong></p><p> <strong>Want more from Mel?</strong> She writes a weekly sex column for <em>Woman's Day</em> magazine. </p><p> Pick up the latest issue to read it.</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>