<p>Porn. We're going there. Whether you watch it, your partner watches it, or you've never really thought about it, this episode is the honest, shame-free conversation you didn't know you needed.</p><br><p>Jay-Jay and Mel explore why porn is so wildly popular, what your search history might (and might not) say about you, and the real question nobody asks: is your porn use helping, or quietly replacing intimacy in your relationship?</p><br><p>This is sex education, not judgment. We cover:</p><ul><li>Why men and women consume porn so differently, and what women are actually looking for</li><li>The psychology of eroticism and why taboo fantasies make sense</li><li>Porn and relationships: when it's fine, when it's not, and what to do when you've just caught your partner watching it (Mel shares her story, and it's a good one)</li><li>The top-searched categories in 2025 and what that tells us about desire</li><li>How porn can actually rewire your body's arousal response, and make it harder to orgasm with a partner</li><li>Ethical porn: what it means, and where to find it (Erika Lust gets a mention)</li><li>Audio erotica, smut, and other ways to explore desire beyond visual porn</li><li><br></li></ul><p>Mentioned in this episode: <a href="https://erikalust.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://erikalust.com/</a> for ethical porn, and if you want to listen to the best audio erotica, try <a href="https://www.tryquinn.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tryquinn.com/</a> or https://www.dipseastories.com/</p><p> </p><p>Next week: BDSM.</p><p>Subscribe so you don't miss a thing. </p><p>And if this episode resonated, leave us a review. It genuinely helps.</p><p> </p><p>How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. Every episode is designed to educate, inform, and start the conversations that most of us were never taught to have.</p><br><p> This podcast is proudly sponsored by <strong>Wild Secrets</strong>.</p><p> Shop online at <a href="http://www.wildsecrets.co.nz" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.wildsecrets.co.nz</a> &amp; use the code <strong>HAVESEX</strong> for 20% off sitewide…</p><p> Pleasure Delivered.</p><br><p> <strong>SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK </strong><a href="https://hthspodcast.substack.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://hthspodcast.substack.com</a></p><p><strong> INSTAGRAM </strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>FACEBOOK </strong><a href="https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast</a></p><p> <strong>YOUTUBE</strong> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast</a></p><p> <strong>EMAIL</strong> <a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">[email protected]</a></p><p> <strong>Support the podcast! </strong><a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex</a></p><p> </p><p> How To Have Sex is produced at <strong>PodLab</strong>, Auckland. <a href="https://www.podlab.co.nz" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.podlab.co.nz</a></p><br><p> <strong>HOSTS:</strong></p><p><strong> Jay-Jay Feeney</strong> – Media Personality</p><p> Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ</p><p> Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney</p><p> </p><p> <strong>Melissa Vranjes – </strong>Certified Somatic Sex &amp; Relationship Coach</p><p> www.melissavranjes.com</p><p> Instagram: @melissavranjes</p><p> </p><p> Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body?<strong> Join Sex School here: </strong>https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school</p><p><strong> </strong></p><p> </p><p><strong> </strong></p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><br><p><br></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>