What If You’re Looking for a Perfect Man Instead of a Good Man? | The Lie of Perfection in Love

What if the man you've been praying for doesn't look exactly like the man you pictured? What if you've been asking God for a perfect man… when He may be teaching you how to recognize a good man? Sis, this one is personal for me. Because I was demanding a perfect man when God gave me a good man. A man with a heart of gold. And I had to let God deal with my expectations, my checklist, and my idea of what a man of God was supposed to look like. In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, we're talking about the lie of perfection in relationships—and what happens when you stop looking for a finished product and start paying attention to posture over perfection. Because a good man doesn't have to have everything figured out. He can still be learning. He can still be growing. He can still be becoming. The question isn't whether he's perfect. The question is: What's his posture toward God? Is he teachable? Is he willing to grow? Does he want to know Jesus more? Does he take responsibility? Is he moving toward Christ? And here's the part we don't always want to hear… You don't get to demand a finished man while you're still allowing God to work on you. Maybe God isn't just using the relationship to grow him. Maybe He's growing you, too. In this episode, we're talking about: Why perfection is an impossible standard The difference between a good man and a perfect man Why posture matters more than perfection Why “unfinished” doesn't automatically mean “wrong” How to recognize a man who is genuinely willing to grow Why you shouldn't date potential—but also shouldn't reject someone simply because he's still growing How God can use relationships to sharpen and grow us What it looks like to surrender your checklist to God Why we need to stop expecting relationships to make us happy and start asking how God may be using them to make us holy And the very real possibility that the woman asking God for a perfect man may still have some growing of her own to do. 😂 And yes… there may be a little coffee talk in this one. ☕😂 Because sometimes growth looks like realizing you don't need a perfect man. You just need a good man with a heart that's turned toward God. And personally? I can't wait to make this man coffee every morning. Black? A little sugar? Creamer? Anything for you! 😂 Holy Reflection Ask yourself: Have I been rejecting imperfect people because I actually expect perfection? Am I looking at someone's heart and direction, or am I looking at my checklist? And one more: Am I willing to let God work on me just as much as I'm asking Him to work on the person I'm praying for? This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍 I'll see you next Thursday at 5:00 AM. STAY CONNECTED 💌 Join The Holy Rescue Newsletter When you join the newsletter, you'll receive: 🎧 Podcast updates, listener Q&As, and behind-the-scenes moments. 🔐 Early access to upcoming releases, special announcements, and new drops inside The Vault. A curated collection of creations, art prints, books, resources, and meaningful pieces from this journey. 📖✨BE THE FIRST TO KNOW WHEN THE BOOK DROPS! 📖✨ 👉 https://girldatethegoodguy.com 🎧 Listen to Girl, Date the Good Guy Follow the show so you never miss an episode. ⭐️ Help Another Woman Find Her Holy Rescue If this episode spoke to your heart today, please take 30 seconds to leave a review on Apple Podcasts! Your words help the algorithm push this message out to the exact woman who needs this rescue right now. 🤍 👉 Click Here to Leave Your Review on Apple Podcasts (If you are on an iPhone, this link will open your Apple Podcasts app instantly. If you are on an Android or desktop, it will guide you through the quickest way to leave your Apple review!) Thank you for walking this journey with me, sis. Keep your eyes on Jesus! 👑 🤍 Connect with Emily [email protected] Listen to Emily's Song Want a little more Emily Jordan? Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” by Emily Jordan on Apple Music. Listen to “I'm a Real Woman” on Apple Music