A Doctor Asks a Sex Therapist: Married at First Sight, Low Desire & What She Really Does All Day

This week's episode is a little different. I sat down with my cousin — Dr. Chloe Vites, a GP (doctor) based in the UK — and let her ask me all the questions people usually ask me at parties, on flights, and in the DMs. Things like: Why I became a sex therapist. What I actually do in session. What it was really like filming Married at First Sight: Sweden. And the things I wish couples knew before it's too late. In this episode, we explore: The moment at 17 that made me decide this was going to be my career Why I chose to specialise in low desire — and what most people get wrong about who actually struggles with low libido What it was really like filming Married at First Sight: Sweden (GIft vid första ögonkastet) as one of three experts, and the parts that surprised me most The biggest myth about desire — and why the most common assumption keeps couples stuck for years What I wish couples in crisis knew (and why I really wish they wouldn't) How I talk to my own kids about sex — and important steps not to skip The hardest part of my work — and it isn't the topics you'd expect 01:16 — Why I became a sex therapist 03:51 — Specialising in low desire 06:28 — What sex therapy is really like 08:31 — Filming Married at First Sight Sweden (GVFÖ XL) 10:59 — The easiest & hardest parts of the job 15:59 — Being a female therapist with male clients 20:31 — How people react when they know my job (in dating & with acquaintances) 23:59 — The hardest conversation about sex for couples 28:02 — Talking to kids about sex (& how I talk to my own about it) 32:12 — What I used to believe about sex 33:30 — What people get wrong about desire 37:38 — MAFS Sweden & analysing people as an occupational hazard 40:41 — What I wish every couple knew Interested in my services? Check them out here Join my 1:1 online program Re:Desire here. Do you want to submit a listener question for the podcast? Here's the link