Off Duty Life

For the first time in 300+ episodes, I'm doing something terrifying: I'm not releasing a podcast for three weeks. Philip and I are heading to Tahiti for our 25th anniversary, and somewhere between planning the trip and Googling whether our hotel had good Wi-Fi, I had a moment: Girl. What the hell are you doing? When you build an entire podcast around going Off Duty, eventually you have to actually… go Off Duty. So I am. And no, it's not because I've "earned" three weeks off. That's the exact bullshit I'm trying to stop buying into. If rest only comes after everything is done, we're all screwed. There will always be another email, another person who needs something, another Target run for the one thing you forgot on the last Target run. Your to-do list is never going to tap you on the shoulder and say, "Excellent work. Go to Tahiti." At some point, you have to decide you're done. In this Off Duty episode, I'm talking about what it's taken for me to actually clock out, why I'm not doing a dramatic digital detox (I'll have my phone. I won't have my inbox.), the boring health stuff that comes with me no matter where I go, and the question I want you thinking about while I'm gone: What are you afraid would happen if you made yourself unavailable? Maybe not for three weeks. Maybe for an afternoon. Maybe for an hour. Pick one thing you're convinced can't function without you and let it function without you. See what happens. As for me? I'm going to eat the food, drink the drinks, read the books, stare at the water and hopefully forget what day it is. While I'm gone: Binge an old episode, leave a review, or join the Off Duty Club Off Duty Life will be back November 4. Until then, friends… I am officially OFF DUTY. Links FREE Guide 7 Ways to Take Your Brain Off Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/

Everybody hands you a college packing list. Nobody hands you the one that says "by the way, your whole day is about to rearrange itself without asking." This week I'm joined by Allison Goldberg, aka Life Coach Ally, life coach and host of Life After Launch, to talk about what actually happens when the kids leave, the bedroom goes quiet, and the kitchen is suspiciously crumb-free. We get into: The moment it really hits (spoiler: it's not the one you'd guess) How manage kids who ghost you How dads feel it too, just differently Why reinvention doesn't need a Cinderella moment The best (and worst) things about a house with no one yelling "what's for dinner?" Whether your nest is emptying, already empty, or you're just in a midlife "who am I now" era, pour something good and come sit with us. Links Website: www.lifecoachallisongoldberg.com Instagram: @‌lifecoachally | @‌navigatingthelaunch Facebook: Life Coach Allison Goldberg | Navigating the Launch TikTok: @‌lifecoachally The Empty Nest Reset: Rediscovering Your New Normal: An Interactive Workbook on Surviving After College Drop-Off https://link.amazon/B0gijIrKi Kim 's Links Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/ What Room In Your House Needs Attention https://kimbarnesjefferson.lpages.co/room-quiz

What happens when the life or relationship you chose years ago no longer feels like yours? In this Off Duty Life episode, I'm joined by self-trust and relationship coach Mikahla Kate to talk about the messy middle between "something isn't right" and making a life-changing decision. This isn't a conversation about telling women to stay or go. It's about slowing down long enough to understand what you actually want, what you've been tolerating, and whether you're following a blueprint you didn't consciously choose. We talk about: · The difference between a rough season and a relationship you've outgrown · Why making the decision isn't the same as doing the deeper work · How childhood patterns can shape the partners we choose · What happens when only one person is willing to reflect and change · Why you can't schedule healing between 1:00 and 3:30 and call it handled · The danger of choosing the same relationship in a different outfit · How small acts of self-trust help you hear your own voice again · Why rediscovering yourself doesn't require blowing up your life or booking a retreat in Bali · The question we eventually have to ask: Am I tolerating my life or actually living it? Sometimes the first step isn't making a decision. It's getting quiet enough to hear what you already know. Connect with Mikahla:Instagram: @thrivewithmick TikTok: @thrivewithmick Connect with Kim: Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/ Off Duty Club https://theoffdutylife.com/odc_sept If your life was a house, what room needs your attention? https://kimbarnesjefferson.lpages.co/room-quiz_podcast free quiz

What happens when the woman who can get a ridiculous amount of shit done has no idea what she does for fun? After moving to Florida, leaving in-person training, and watching Philip retire, I suddenly had something I wasn't used to: space. I didn't know what to do with it. In this Off Duty Life episode: what happens when the life you've carried for years stops fitting, the questions I've been asking myself to figure out what's next, and how I reluctantly became a pickleball person. Plus why my weekend is now Tuesday and Wednesday, and the one question that might have you rethinking something you've been automatically renewing for years. Press play and let's figure out what this next chapter could look like, without turning it into another damn project.

Ever replayed a mistake so many times it deserves its own Netflix series? At some point, you're not learning from the past. You're just reviewing the footage. This week I'm talking with Scott Dotson, author of Par for the Soul and founder of Own Your Headspace. We get into what happens when you stop obsessing over the last shot and ask a better question: what's next? We talk about letting go of a bad round without needing a perfect ending, why your old definition of success doesn't have to follow you forever, and what golf can teach you about screwing up, adjusting, and hitting the next shot anyway. Sometimes you're in the trees, not the fairway. Take the lesson. Leave the rest. And play the damn ball from where it landed. Links Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/ Off Duty Club https://theoffdutylife.com/odc_sept website: http://ownyourheadspace.com instagram: @‌scottdotson67 Facebook: Scott Dotson + Own Your Head Space book - Par for the Soul available on amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GY7DXRVG