139. Why Do I Keep Sabotaging My Relationships? Anxious Attachment and the Trauma We Never Named | My Conversation with Stacey Uhrig

Ever watched your partner chat with someone else at a party and felt your whole body scream "he's going to leave me"? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with Stacey Uhrig, certified trauma care practitioner and founder of Flip Your Mindset, to get to the roots of the relationship patterns that leave smart women asking "why did I do that again?" Stacey shares how she went from speech therapist to trauma-informed coach, and how as kids we assess, address, and adapt to whatever keeps us safe, then carry those adaptations straight into adult love. Together they talk about why a child would rather believe "I'm the problem" than feel how scary it is to depend on a limited parent, how emotional neglect often leaves a deeper mark than the big events we recognize as trauma, and why we keep doing what's familiar even when it hurts us. Stacey also walks through her HURRT Assessment (Healing UnResolved Roots of Trauma), and Jenn opens up about a third grade classroom moment that taught her the deepest wound was having no one hold her pain. It's a warm, candid conversation about trading "what's wrong with me?" for "what happened to me?" and deciding what you're ready to leave behind. You might want to listen if: You keep self-sabotaging your relationships and can't figure out why Anxious attachment has you spiraling with jealousy or fear that he'll leave You secretly feel unlovable or not enough in your relationship You grew up with emotional neglect and never thought of it as childhood trauma People pleasing runs your life and saying no makes you feel sick to your stomach Learn more about our Guest:  Stacey is a Certified Trauma Care Practitioner, speaker, facilitator, coach, and founder of Flip Your Mindset, a trauma-informed coaching and education practice that helps people understand how their past experiences may be shaping their present-day behaviors, beliefs, and emotional patterns.  Discover your Personal Trauma Roots: www.flipyourmindset.com/hurrt  Follow Stacey on Instagram Follow Stacey on YouTube WORK WITH ME 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn — see if the Fall 2026 Cohort is the right fit for you Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Ask your Coach a question — it might get featured on the show LEARN MORE Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk STAY CONNECTED Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Enjoying the show? A review helps other women find us! DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for acc...