Why You Want the Wrong People and Get the Ick With the Right Ones

Why are you obsessed with the person who barely texts back, but getting the ick from the one who actually likes you? In this episode, Louisa unpacks why we’re often attracted to emotionally unavailable people, how childhood attachment patterns shape who we choose, and why chemistry isn’t always the green flag we think it is. Anxious and avoidant attachment, hot and cold dating, nervous system familiarity, situationships, and how to stop confusing anxiety with attraction. Plus, how to retrain yourself to actually want the safe, secure love you keep saying you want. Annoying? Slightly. Empowering? Very. Work with Louisa: https://www.unlearnwithlouisa.com/coachingprograms Book a free discovery call: https://www.unlearnwithlouisa.com/book-a-call Follow Louisa on socials: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearnwithlouisa/ Tik tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unlearnwithlouisa