Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery | Podcast Guru

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The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ. Ranked Top 2% Globally Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you? Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go? Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded. I’m so glad you’re here. I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked. Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment. On this podcast, you’ll find: A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole. If you’re ready to: Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation Experience God’s love without fear or striving Break familiar patterns for good Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play. This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus. --- Let’s Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: [email protected]

Recent Episodes

166 | Why Did My Good Stretch of Healing Fall Apart? How to Stay in Self When Life Gets Loud (IFS Series, Part 3)

💛 Slipped, or scared you're about to? Book a Breakthrough Call. You are not alone. Why did my good stretch fall apart? Was I faking it the whole time? No. Today I'm telling you about the weekend I lost it. Months of steady progress, a wedding I attended alone, and an unblocked phone number days later. Nothing dramatic happened. That's exactly the point. Part 3 of a 3-part series. We cover: Why finding Holy Spirit Led Self and staying in Self are two different skills The five P's of IFS: presence, perspective, patience, persistence, playfulness The step I skipped for years which turned my healing into another full time job Which of the five is missing for you right now? What's one small step you can take in that direction this week? Mentioned: Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller Let's Connect: 📞 learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 [email protected]

24 MIN

165 | Why Can't I Be Kind to Myself? How to Tell the Difference Between You and a Part of You (IFS Series Part 2)

💛 You can't see your own blending. That's what community is for! Email me about scheduling your private Breakthrough Call. Why can't I be kind to myself? Is that me talking, or is that a part of me? For most of my adult life I thought the loudest voice in my head was me. It wasn't. And I only found out because my coach kept stopping me mid-sentence to say that's a part. Part 2 of a 3-part series. We cover: What "blended" means, and the moment I realized my entire life had been run by parts I couldn't see Why your Holy Spirit Led Self isn't something you build. It's already there, and it was never damaged What Holy Spirit Led Self vs blended actually feels like in the body The eight qualities of Self (the list of C's in IFS partswork) Which of the eight is hardest to bring to yourself? Email me which one! Mentioned: Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller Let's Connect: 📞 learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 [email protected]

17 MIN

164 | Talk to the Part of You That Still Misses Him: 6 Steps That Help You Meet Her Instead of Fighting Her (IFS Series, Part 1)

💛 Parts work is hard to do alone the first few times. Book a Breakthrough Call to experience it in a guided, safe way. There's a part of me that still misses him. Why can't I make her stop? Because fighting her was never going to work. Today I'm teaching you a completely different approach and walking through all six steps out loud with my own real part, so you can hear what it actually sounds like. This is part 1 of a 3-part series. We cover: IFS 101 for the woman who's never heard of this: Self, protectors, and the wounded parts underneath The guardrail: accepting and loving a part is not condoning what she wants The six F's of IFS: Find, Focus, Flesh out, Feel toward, Befriend, Fear Ready to walk through all six steps? I'd love to help! Schedule your call with me and we'll find your part, hear what she wants to tell you, and show her some love instead of fighting. Mentioned: Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller Let's Connect: 📞 learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 [email protected]

25 MIN

163 | She Felt the Warning and Ignored It: GUEST Chel Cartmill on Silencing Your Instincts and Learning to Trust Yourself Again

💛 Need to talk this through with someone? Book a Breakthrough Call today. How do I trust myself again when I stopped believing my own judgment a long time ago? Today’s guest felt the warning. More than one. And she talked herself out of every single one, until it cost her nearly everything. Chel Cartmill is a Next Chapter Transition Specialist and a Certified Trauma-Informed Master Coach who has been walking people through divorce, grief, and broken relationships since 2007. She’s the founder of Reclaim, a Christ-centered healing program, and the author of the memoir Spider on My Neck. We explore: Why your body sends warnings before your mind has words for them and what happens when you keep overriding them How “be the good person” and “don’t judge” got confused with discernment, and the slow loss of a voice Why people-pleasing and peacemaking are actually about control and what that costs over years How to rebuild self-trust A warning of using Scripture to cover grief, sadness and anger instead of moving through them Connect with Chel: 📖 Spider on My Neck: available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble 🌐 www.chelcartmill.com Email me and tell me what resonated! I read every one myself and I write back personally. Let’s Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: [email protected]

32 MIN

162 | Will My Husband Ever Trust Me Again? How Do I Rebuild Trust When He Won’t Give It?

💙 Want a room full of women doing this same work? Email me about Rooted in Joy. I gave him my phone code. I share my location. I tell him where I'm going before he asks. So why does he still look at me like that? Today I'm telling you the truth about what you can actually control when it comes to rebuilding trust and why the thing you're building is worth it, when it doesn't produce the result you want. I walk through my own list of everything I did, and the honest part: he said the words "I trust you," and I never felt it. We explore: Why you can do everything right and he still may not trust you, and why that isn't your failure Trustworthiness is yours. Trust is his. Two completely different things The trap of being trustworthy only toward him, and why integrity has to be with everyone The question that replaced "does he trust me?" How your body tells you when you're out of alignment The real reason to keep going when the outcome isn't guaranteed Your one step: stop measuring whether he trusts you. Start measuring whether you're being trustworthy in front of God, not in front of him. Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: [email protected] 🌎 Website: www.kristinajoycoaching.com

17 MIN