Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Do you see other people posting their engagement photos, or baby shower pictures and feeling envious? Or maybe you see people posting their travelling pictures - and start to feel dissatisfied with the lack of travelling you’ve done lately? Or maybe you see your best friend’s boyfriend spoiling her with expensive gifts, and you start to compare that to your own relationship - where your partner's idea of romance is splitting a chicken masala from the local takeaway. Comparison can leave us f...

Ever felt an intense feeling of shame when someone is upset with you? Well... I've had a couple of situations happen recently. One with my wife and one with a close friend of mine - where I experienced feelings of both shame & anxiety, after making a mistake. My brain jumped to thoughts like: 'I'm not good enough' 'I'm a bad friend' I even started catastrophising to... 'What if my friend doesn't forgive me?' 'What if the whole friendship group falls out with me over this?' So today...

Today I'm answering a question from a listener. "My boyfriend of 1.5 years and I started out having an open relationship. Turned out that this wasn't a good fit for me due to my insecurities and brought on anxiety that was unmanageable. "Now my boyfriend has agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with me. I find my self feeling "guilty" that he is now in a different style of relationship than what he initially wanted, and worried that he will inevitably change his mind and we will have t...

Is your fear of losing them pushing them away? Are you feeling so anxious that it’s getting in between you and your partner - or maybe you and your friends - when all you want is to feel closer to them? In today’s episode, I’m talking about 5 ways a fear of losing someone actually pushes the people we love away. And I’m offering you practical ways to start to challenge these subconscious patterns, and create connection with them instead. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with R...

Don’t like thirst trap pictures on Instagram. Don’t reply if your ex messages you. Don’t go for drinks with your female co-worker, unless other people are going. Sometimes we set rules for our partners as a way to avoid or manage our own fears and anxieties. Other times, we really don’t want to be okay with a certain kind of behaviour. In this episode, I help you get better at making that judgement call - and manage your mind in the face of any behaviour in your relationship. Mentioned in...