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In this episode, Marsha dives into one of the most charged parts of leadership and visibility: criticism. If you want to be seen, heard, and impactful, this conversation is essential listening.Marsha breaks down why visibility is not a strategy problem, but a nervous system and identity issue. Drawing from personal experiences, client stories, and NLP principles, she explains why criticism hits so deeply, how the subconscious scans for danger, and why one negative comment can drown out fifty supportive ones if you let it.This episode is a permission slip to stay in your lane, keep your side of the street clean, and continue rising even when others try to pull you back.Highlights[02:05] Why visibility is nervous system work, not just strategy[04:40] A personal story of being harshly judged and the moment everything shifted[06:30] Why criticism hurts most when it mirrors something unhealed inside you[08:20] The truth about judgment: it’s never actually about you[10:15] Collaboration vs criticism and why your circle shapes your expansion[12:45] You will never be criticized by someone who has done what you’re doing[15:05] How the brain’s threat system fixates on one negative voice[17:10] Choosing to focus on truth instead of emotional noise[19:40] The “sides of the street” metaphor and staying in your values[23:55] Boosters on a rocket and why some people are not meant to come with you[28:10] Keeping your side of the street clean, regardless of how others behave[31:30] A reminder not to shrink, because your voice is meant to help someoneMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Outspoken NLP Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/OUTSPOKENNLP

In today’s episode, Marsha explores what it truly means to stay Heart-Wired when life feels heavy, uncertain, or emotionally demanding. Recorded during the holidays, this conversation meets listeners in the reality that leadership, visibility, and openness don’t pause just because things are hard — and neither does the nervous system’s instinct to protect.Marsha breaks down the difference between being hard wired (armored, shut down, surviving) and heart wired (regulated, open, emotionally present), and why most people default to protection when things feel unpredictable. Drawing from neuroscience, lived experience, and real world examples, she explains how staying open isn’t about bypassing pain, but about building capacity, self trust, and sustainable leadership.This episode is an invitation to stop armoring up, reconnect with your heart as a source of intelligence and safety, and lead yourself forward even when it would feel easier to shut down.Highlights[00:45] Why staying heart wired is hardest exactly when you need it most[01:20] The science of heart to brain communication and why thinking harder doesn’t help[02:15] Why slowing down, breathing, and listening create more clarity than force[03:10] Hard wired vs heart wired: survival mode versus regulated leadership[04:05] Why numbing out and armoring up feel easier but cost you more long term[05:10] The subconscious need for predictability and why hard seasons trigger shutdown[06:05] Common fear stories that surface under stress: “I’m too much” and “If they see me, they’ll leave”[07:10] How armoring kills creativity, connection, and support[08:00] Regulating through breath and anchoring back into the heart[08:55] Vulnerability as expansion, not weakness[09:50] Turning discomfort, criticism, and visibility into leadership fuel[11:05] Why belief is the foundation required for what you’re building next[13:00] Your heart as a superpower meant to be used when things are hardMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Outspoken NLP Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/OUTSPOKENNLP

In this episode, Marsha is speaking with Charles and Heidi Hatley. They are the honest, unfiltered voices behind Kava and Kettlebells, a podcast that’s redefining strength, sobriety, and intentional living. Charles is a U.S. Air Force veteran and small-business consultant; Heidi is a personal trainer, homeschooling mom, and traumatic brain injury (TBI) survivor. Together, they’re raising their kids, lifting heavy weights, and sipping kava in a world saturated with alcohol.After surviving a life-altering car crash, they turned to natural healing—rebuilding their lives through movement, faith, and a botanical alternative called kava. Today, they are advocates for stronger minds and calmer bodies through sober living and holistic practices. Their story is a testament to the power of choice: choosing sobriety, choosing strength, and choosing to live life with clarity.Highlights [03:55] The early signs something wasn’t working despite outward success[06:20] A defining moment that forced a shift in direction[09:10] How identity and self worth were shaped by early experiences[12:45] Recognizing patterns that kept repeating in life and business[16:05] The role of nervous system regulation in sustainable change[18:40] Letting go of perfectionism and the pressure to prove[22:15] Why growth often feels uncomfortable before it feels expansive[26:30] Rewriting old stories instead of reacting from them[30:05] Building trust with yourself after burnout or disappointment[34:20] What aligned success actually looks like now[38:10] Advice for listeners navigating their own season of changeConnect with Charles and Heidi Hatley:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kava_kettlebellsWebsite: http://www.kavaandkettlebells.netTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kava_kettlebellsMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastUnbothered Mind Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastDownload FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERELearn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE. Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG. Click HERESubscribe on YouTube. Click HEREMentioned in this episode:Outspoken NLP Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/OUTSPOKENNLP

In today’s episode, Marsha reframes why goals often fizzle out by mid January and introduces a concept most people never stop to measure: capacity. Rather than pushing harder, adding more, or proving you can handle it all, she explains why sustainable growth depends on nervous system regulation, subconscious safety, and honest self leadership.Marsha shares how being led by ideas instead of capacity once created burnout, resentment, and pressure, and how learning to pause, shelf ideas, and listen inward completely changed how she builds, scales, and serves. Through real examples from her business, including canceling programs, restructuring her calendar, and postponing high touch client work, she shows how honoring capacity actually creates better results, deeper impact, and long term growth.This episode is an invitation to stop asking “Can I do this?” and start asking “Can I hold this?” If you are building something meaningful in 2026, this conversation will change how you make decisions, set boundaries, and lead yourself.Highlights[01:22] Why goals often fizzle out in January and the role capacity plays[01:43] What capacity actually means beyond pushing harder[02:23] Why sustainable growth requires patience, not urgency[03:32] Being led by ideas versus being led by nervous system capacity[04:19] Capacity as the bridge between ambition and results[04:44] When ambition works against you instead of for you[05:26] How burnout, comparison, and proving energy signal dysregulation[06:38] Checking capacity first prevents resentment and exhaustion[07:09] Canceling and refunding a program as an act of aligned leadership[08:22] Letting ideas mature instead of forcing them into the world[09:15] Why your body blocks opportunities it doesn’t feel safe to hold[12:12] Building a business that supports who you are becomingMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE.Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Outspoken NLP Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/OUTSPOKENNLP

At the start of a new year filled with big goals, vision boards, and fresh planners, Marsha offers a grounding reframe that changes everything: the vision is not the problem — identity is. In this powerful solo episode, she breaks down why goals collapse, self sabotage shows up, or momentum fades when your identity and nervous system are not calibrated to hold what you want to create.Drawing from NLP, subconscious rewiring, and real time examples from her own business, Marsha explains why identity is the deepest level of change and why strategy without identity work leads to burnout, contraction, and frustration. She walks listeners through how identity shapes beliefs, habits, language, and nervous system safety, and how micro shifts in language, boundaries, and self leadership create sustainable growth.This episode is an invitation to stop asking “What do I want?” and start asking “Who am I choosing to become?” If you want this year to feel different not because you worked harder, but because you led yourself differently, this conversation will land.Highlights[01:42] Why the vision isn’t the problem and identity always is[02:32] The most important question to ask before setting goals: who can actually hold this[04:08] Identity as the deepest level of change in NLP[04:45] The ceiling and floor metaphor and why belief determines capacity[05:29] Why habits don’t create identity — identity creates habits[06:39] How goal setting from lack guarantees self sabotage[07:42] Why vision boards fail when identity doesn’t match the image[08:30] Self sabotage as self protection, not weakness[09:55] A real example of identity contraction around expansion and opportunity[11:11] How identity shapes what you see, hear, and feel[14:03] Speaking identity into existence through present tense language[18:48] Asking better questions: who do I choose to be this year?Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE.Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Outspoken NLP Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/OUTSPOKENNLP